Thursday, June 29, 2006

Would You Like to Share a Thought?

Thank you to those who have been sending emails with kind thoughts and memories. If you haven’t already, we invite you to post your thoughts about Anuj directly to the blog as comments under any entry or with an email to

In the meantime, here are some recollections from one of Anuj’s close friends…

"Anuj was one of my best friends at M.I.T. and ADP, and it deeply saddens me that he passed away. These past few days, I've been wrestling with how to best honor Anuj by writing an email expressing what an amazing person he was, but I have realized that whatever I say will be inadequate to describe him. So here goes:

Anuj had an incredible zest for life. I will never forget his contagious smile and laugh. Anuj was not only able to get along with anybody he met, he made each person who met him feel valued and important. He was one of the most selfless people I have known. He always made time to help me and others even if he was extremely busy. He also had an amazing tolerance for other people’s teasing and tickling. I remember one time when someone tickled him so that he curled up in a ball on the main stairway of the house and kept on laughing. Anuj took it all so well and was very forgiving of others. I don’t think there was an ounce of arrogance in Anuj; he never was condescending to anyone and although he was very intelligent and talented, he didn’t brag about it. Anuj was also a man of his word. If Anuj committed to do something, he would do it, and do it well. Whatever it was you were doing, having Anuj along always made it a better experience. He just seemed to bring out the best in the people around him.

It seems like almost all my memories from college involve Anuj somehow. He and Prakash were the firstof my pledge class brothers to befriend me. I remember one night when he, Calvin, and I stayed up late just talking about life, everything, and nothing and before we knew it, the sun was rising. Lots of mymemories of Anuj are from playing sports together. We played just about every intramural sport together (other than hockey) for ADP and he was awesome at them all. Anuj was very competitive when playing sports, but always gracious in victory and defeat. He, Calvin, and I played lots of pickup basketball in our college years. Separately, the three of us were average basketball players, but somehow when all three of us were on the same team, it seemed like we could beat anyone.

We also had some great road trips together, to Atlantic City (twice), to the U.S. Open (twice), to the ’96 Olympics in Atlanta, along the Pacific Coast Highway in California. When things went wrong, like when we got lost in NYC on our way to New Jersey, or when we accidentally ran over a dog in Georgia, Anuj was always a voice of reason and remained upbeat and hopeful. Anuj was the person who introduced me to the music of Rush, and we went to a couple of their concerts. I remember that he read the lyrics to one of their songs as a literary presentation at our house meeting.

We also went to a number of Red Sox and Patriots games together. He became an avid Patriots and Red Sox fan, and wouldn’t you know it, not long afterwards both teams won championships. Anuj was also the one who renewed my interest in bicycling. We biked to Hopkington and biked all the way out to Cape Cod a couple of times in a big group with BobbyMac. On the first trip to Cape Cod, after I was hit by a car, I remember that Anuj encouraged me and his sense of humor helped me forget about my scrapes. He was a friend I knew I could always count on, and he was an incredible blessing to me.

Good bye and thank you, Anuj. You have made me a better person, and this world a better place. You and your family will be in my prayers, and you will always be a part of who I am."

- Tosh


Anonymous HS said...

thank you for sharing. anuj was truly an amazing person. he will be with us forever.

11:21 AM  
Anonymous Ajay said...

Dear Anuj,

You will always live in our heart. Relationships are those that bond, memories are those that make relationships forever. Thus, our relationship continues, simply transformed. For God has plans that cause us to think "why", but only through time will we one day understand.


Ajay, Jugnu, Anika, and Serena

11:02 PM  
Anonymous Zach said...


I certainly never expected to see you go so soon. Your life has been a brilliant example to me, and I am grateful to have known you.


11:04 PM  

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