Wednesday, July 19, 2006

Count Your Age with Friends, Not Years

Anuj's welcoming smile, warm spirit, and sense of humor allowed him to make friends effortlessly. His humility, kindness and integrity allowed him to keep those friendships permanently.


Surrounded by his friends after graduating from high school at St. Francis College in Lucknow, India. Summer 1994.



With some friends from his pledge class before an ADP fraternity event at MIT. Spring 1996.



At a party while working towards his MBA at Wharton. Winter 2006.

46 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

It looks like Anuj had many, many friends. If one counts their age in friends, then Anuj was in the hundreds. Nothing can make up for your loss--there's no question about that. But it seems like he lived an incredibly rich life by surrounding himself with good people, and always did right by them.

11:35 PM  
Blogger In Memory of Anuj said...

Thank you for your comment. You are right. Anuj had hundreds of people who loved and respected him around the world. We hope that a little piece of him will continue to live on it all of their hearts.

1:35 PM  
Anonymous Anjna said...

Mohan Family,

I just read about Anuj in the paper and I just wanted to take the time and let you know how sorry I am for your loss. I did not know Anuj, but I know how you all feel. I have lost both of brothers to a terminal illness, so I know how hard it is to lose someone you love. Your son/ brother seemed like a wonderful person. I just wanted to let you know from my exprience that it does get better, believe it or not and time may not take away the pain, but it time helps numb the pain. Your website to Anuj is beautiful and now you keep his leagacy alive by sharing to the world. Again my heart aches for you very much, but he is in a better place, just like my brothers are.

Take care,
Anjna

7:03 PM  
Anonymous Ruby said...

Thank you for posting these beautiful pictures of our beloved Anuj. It brings tears to my eyes every night when I check this site; but at the same time I think how he lived every moment with such determination and grace.

7:03 PM  
Anonymous n & kc said...

Dear Hema and Neal,

We are very sorry to hear about the death of dear Anuj. There are no words that can truly ease the pain of a sudden loss like this. At a time like this, there is a sorrow for which no heart could ever be prepared. We read the details about his life. He accomplished so much in such a short time. In ways big and small, he touched too many hearts to ever be forgotten.

Helping words, healing words are hard to find now, but warmest thought go out to you and your family to comfort you somehow.

12:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i just saw this web site while browsing other blogs. thanks for sharing. sounds like anuj was a pretty amazing fella: smart, friendly, and kind. hard to find that combination. sorry for your loss.

12:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just came to know of the trajedy. I just wish God be with his family and friends. A truly amazing person.

Avinash (Batch of 1998, SFC)

3:07 PM  
Anonymous Madhur Bhargava said...

got to see that anuj bhaiya studied from our college sfc , it is really a very sad moment and while it really pains me to even console u ppl , still my heartiest good wishes for this beautiful soul , May God bless him and you all!

3:08 PM  
Anonymous A said...

"I am deeply saddened to have lost Anuj. He was one of the most wonderful people I have ever known and I consider myself privileged to have known him for the short time I did. He was talented and intelligent, but was also understanding and sympathetic of others, loving and giving. He was always able to smile and laugh even through trying times: he had an unconquerable spirit. I am a better person for having known him and I shall miss my friend terribly."

3:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mohan Family,
I join the extended Wharton family in expressing my sincere and heartfelt condolences. As a Wharton alum and a person who grew up in India, Anuj will serve as an inspiration for me to live my life better. Few people can leave a legacy this rich in this short a time span. My thoughts and prayers are with the family.

7:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was not fortunate enough to know this young man, but I am deeply touched by the story of his talent, humility, leadership, selflessness, acomplishment and love for people.

10:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your wonderful Anuj will never be forgotten. He lives on in all those whose lives he touched. I know these words might not seem all that helpful to you now, but I hope that in time they'll give you comfort.

3:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Anuj,

You were my best and sincere friend at Wharton.

I am sure you will be in peace in Heaven.

11:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your wonderful Anuj will never be forgotten. He lives on in all those whose lives he touched. I know these words might not seem all that helpful to you now, but I hope that in time they'll give you comfort.

12:38 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Anuj was my batchmate in SFC, Lucknow. He was an excellent debater and was a class topper.

I have very fond memories of our school days. The photograph of Anuj and his classmates from SFC brought back so many memories.

I am indeed shocked to find out about this tragedy. My best wishes are with the Mohan family and may God provide all the strength during these trying times.

Let this website carry his dream and vision forward.

He will be missed.

Manik Gupta
Section 'B'
SFC, Lucknow

4:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Deepa ji, Aditya Bhai Sahib, Neal bete and Kapil bete,

Not a single day goes by that Prem and I don't think of dear Anuj. We remember when we attended Neal's graduation in 2005. Anuj was so kind. He said nice things about everyone and everything. At some point during that weekend, we were having dinner at Neal and Hema's place, and I offered him aloo parantha. It was nothing out of the ordinary, but Anuj made sure to say that he enjoyed it, and made me feel very special. From all that I've read, it sounds like Anuj was a person who made everyone feel very special. But he was the one who was very, very special--more than any of us. We miss him and will always miss him.

Love,
Krishna

9:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just came across Anuj from the web. From what I read, he was a successful person and had a wonderful future ahead. As they say, only God knows the meaning of His leelas, we can only pray that Anuj is at peace and wish the family the strength to deal with this terrible loss.

11:09 PM  
Blogger vipul said...

I was casually browsing through the
website of wharton school today when I came to know of the sad demise of Anuj. On going fully through the blog, the loss became more personal when I came to know that Anuj belonged to my homecity Lucknow and was my school senior, a fellow Franciscan. He was definitely bound to achieve great heights in life. May his soul rest in peace and may God give courage to his family members to bear this irreparable loss.

4:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The other night, we were driving down El Camino. Like I always do, I looked over at Oasis and thought of Anuj. This time the memory was more vivid. It was a cool July evening, and my first visit to California. Anuj suggested that we all go out for a drink. We went to another place before downing cold brews at Oasis. I was anxious about moving to California, but Anuj assured me that it was a great place to live. He had a way of saying things in a way that wasn't dogmatic, but always full of confidence. I remember as we got into the car, I felt a certain calmness about the move. It was because of Anuj.

3:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Words cannot do justice to the reason behind a shedded tear, even though I never knew Anuj. I cannot even begin to comprehend your loss, but I feel for you. Please accept my deepest condolences. May god bless him, and help you get through this period.

Varun (WG'08)

8:59 AM  
Anonymous Abhishek Agrawal said...

Dear Mohan Family,

I want to thank all of you for coming to Penn campus and sharing your feelings with us. I remember the first time I met Anuj. In less than ten mins after introduction, we became friends. I felt so comfortable talking to him as if I was chatting with my own brother. Yes, he was truely like a brother to me. I knew that I could always count on him. I can't even imagine your grief but I'll say that he'll live in our hearts for ever! My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Abhishek

10:07 PM  
Anonymous Rupa, San Francisco said...

Hi there,

I didn't know Anuj - I actually found his story while researching a grief article for a close friend who recently lost his 21-year-old brother. Your website moved me very much - Anuj was clearly a respected and beautiful person, and I join the many others who are deeply affected by this loss.

My thoughts and prayers are with your family and friends - continue to be strong and share his spirit with the world.

4:53 PM  
Anonymous Ritesh Mishra said...

Dear Family members of Anuj,
Today I was just surfing on the net and found a site by the name of Anuj Mohan. After vewing the photgraphs on the site I came to know this was the same Anuj I used to know. I did not know about his family. I just knew that he had come from the U.S. and we both got admitted in 4th standard in St.Francis' College. I felt very sorry about his death. He was a god friend of mine.Since he used to always gain the First Rank in the class so even my family members knew him very well by name and the too felt very sorry about his death.

- Ritesh Mishra (SFC '94)

2:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I met him at Wharton, I was not aware that he had spent his childhood years in Lucknow...my hometown...When I came to know in September 2006..I realised that he is the same Anuj Mohan..the guy who was very very popular in the student circles at Lucknow during his high school years....We all knew Anuj at that time...he was a star....he won all debates.....He was very active in 'Crossroads' the annual St Francis Inter-School cultural fest......He was simply outstanding.......

So, I have known him since then...although I did not realize this until recently.......And he was as much a star then as he is now

8:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As long as I can, I will look at this world on your behalf. Do good in your name. Be kind and generous with your words echoing in my head.

All of this until we meet again, my dear friend.

7:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

May God Bless his soul.

5:20 AM  
Anonymous hema said...

Dearest Anuj, when I read each entry, I learn something new about you, which makes me feel one step closer to you. But every new detail is also a sad reminder of all that I didn't know when you were here. You were an incredible person and continue to be an omnipresent spirit in our lives. We miss you so very much.

12:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I heard about the loss of your beloved Anuj I was so very sorry. I can see what a truly amazing and special person Anuj was. I wish I knew him. I am a friend and co-worker of Anuj's sister-in-law's mom. I have suffered a tremendous loss one year when my husband passed away suddenly while playing tennis. I know how hard every day is. My family and I take one day at a time. I hope that the scholarship fund has helped your family to heal a little. My thoughts are with you-
Cynthia

7:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

While surfing this site opened up,I never knew Anuj, I wish I had. His life brought joy to so many other lives. I am so very sorry for your loss. Souls travel in families and loved ones always come back. He will too. Till then he's in your smile,in the flower that blooms on your window ledge and in your hearts.
Kairavi

12:05 AM  
Blogger Tanveer said...

Anuj was my class mate and friend when we were in St Francis College, Lucknow... It was really shocking to know that Anuj is no more.... though we were not in touch since he left for US but we (SFC people) do get to know about him by some or other source... and same way again we got this very shocking news... one of the jolly fellow and his lovely smile is always drawn into imagination whenever his name comes and still i can feel his lovely smile... May GOD Bless his soul...
its been almost one year but still we are not able to bleive that he is not with us....really anuj....we all miss u but ur smile will always remain wid us..........

9:29 PM  
Blogger Greg said...

I'm proud that Philly Fight Night, a tradition I emceed in its first year in 2005, is a proud supporter of Anuj's memorial foundation. And to think, when we pitched this to Wharton's Dean Harker, he wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole. No school officials would. Look at the good it has produced, and the honor that it upholds. Though we can never recover the loss of a fellow classmate, we can each do our small part and honor the memory. I know I will.

3:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mentor is too modest a word for the relationship that me and Anuj shared. He was a great brother, a fun friend, and just a great person to spend quality time with. Anuj has always been there for me, if I ever needed advice, or just wanted someone to talk to. He was always the first one to wish me luck when I went for an all important event or had an exam. On the morning of March 27, day after Ram Navami, as I was getting ready for my new endeavor, I heard his alarm go of and it struck me that Andy, as I use to like calling him, was still there with me. He had not let go of his habit of always wishing me best as I stepped into a new phase of my life. And though all I could do this time was to reply back with tears in my eyes and not a shake of the hand, the fact that Anuj is still there with me and with all of us, is all that matters. Thank you Andy, thank you.

-Kapil

7:12 PM  
Anonymous Ajay and Jugnu said...

The pictures posted of Anuj and his birthdays bring back memories of the many experiences we shared together; the moments which contributed to who we are today.
The website dedicated to Anuj will ensure he will continue to shape our future for years to come. Thank you.

5:04 PM  
Anonymous Abhay Bhushan said...

Dear Deepa, Neal, Hema and Kapil,

A long year has passed as we remember Anuj and Adityaji. It has been a long winter. Rather than mourn the loss now, I remember how brightly they shined in their life, giving light, love and joy to all of us. An incredibly rich example to continue to inspire family and friends for years to come, so eloquently captured in this website

12:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

While surfing the Internet, I came upon this site. It is a very touching and fitting tribute to the great man like Anuj. Though I realize the pain of loosing someone like him can never be eased, yet I hope the future will bring you hope and comfort in his loving memory. It reminded me of these old quotes which I hope will give you some peace.

" There is Always a Silver Lining Behind Every Cloud",

" Dawn After Every Night "
&
" Golden Rays of Sun After a Dark Night "

My Blessings are with you & your family. Remember, Anuj is your Eternal Light that continues to be a Guiding Light.

GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR FAMILY

7:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Neal,

My name is Sanjay Noronha and we were class-mates in SFC. My brother Suneer was Anuj's classmate.

My aunt Ma'am U Menezes taught Anuj.

Our prayers and wishes go out to you and your family.

4:47 PM  
Blogger pd said...

Hello,
Myself Prosenjeet, I am the designer of the official web site of St. Francis; College, Lucknow (www.stfranciscollege.edu.in).
I am a Franciscan myself and studied here from 1978 to 1990(ISC)
Came across this blog while I was searching for some details on our college.
Anuj, I may not know you personally, but buddy, I will miss you as a fellow Franciscan. Its a loss to big to define in words!
God bless you!
-Prosenjeet(me.prosenjeet@gmail.com)

9:58 AM  
Anonymous In Anuj's Memory said...

I cant tell how much the blog has been an eye opener for me and my friends ! We have just passed class 12th and are about to start a new phase of our lives. The blog has been a source of inspiration for all of us. The fact that somebody from our school (St. Francis' College) acheived such greatness makes us proud ! To be true all of us have dreamt of reaching that height and now that we have an example in front of us our work is going to be so much easier !

And i know that HIS example is such that each and everyone who comes across it cant help but be amazed by his greatness !

In the words of one of my friends after reading the blog
" I always knew that Franciscans were destined to be great but someone as him... I guess his greatness is something all of us should aspire to achive "

-An Ex Franciscan

9:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My Beloved Son Anuj,

As I was watching Olympic I could not hold back my tears. In each of the GOLD MEDALIST
I was imagining your face, imagining that you are standing there. Your keen interest and enthusiasm in sports was some thing very special.

I remember once after your high school you asked me, mom I want to become a basketball player and I answered, “Anuj do whatever you want, but be the best at it.”

Though you didn’t become a basketball player, you did however attend M.I.T. - World's top Engineering school as well as World Top Business School - Wharton School of Business

Anuj you were always on the top as after your high school you got admission in 11 Top Most School of U.S.A.
I still have all those Admission Certificate with me, & will be with me always till I live.

You were the topmost student in St. Francis College.
In the history of St. Francis College (more than 150 years) you made a record to be honored by 4 student council positions.

Anuj I am still using that Atlanta Olympic Bag you bought for me in 1996 & think that you are still with me.
As you always wanted to go to China, I would have gone with you & watched the Olympic with you.
The feeling that you are still with me will keep me going & I will try my best to finish all the work you have started. I pray God to give me enough strength for that.

August 11, it is 26 months you left us. I will go to temple as I always go on this day of the month & will pray for the peace.
And for the PEACE ON THE EARTH

-Mom

1:34 PM  
Blogger pd said...

I just read the comment posted by the mother of Anuj(post dated Aug 2008). Ma'am, I do understand the pain and it is a passage which when I read brought tears to my eyes. I wish I could have consoled you but words aren't enough...simply aren't enough.
Really, I don't know what to say, but, to add that we are beside you though it may not reduce the pain and the empty space. Still, we are there.
regards,
Prosenjeet Dasgupta
me.prosenjeet@gmail.com
www.pdssite.com

5:53 PM  
Anonymous Bill Kreamer said...

Hi everyone,

as Anuj's birthday approaches, I am thinking of him more and more. I miss Anuj terribly, his laugh, his smile, and his honest spirit. Please take some time to remember him, and let his life warm yours.

I miss you brother.

Bill

8:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

We are celebrating you and your life on this special day and every day in our hearts.

Archana, Harinder, Rohan and Arman

6:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dearest Anuj,
Has been thinking of you since morning and m;issing you.
Love and Remberance last forever.
Love,
mohini mausi

10:30 PM  
Anonymous Pranav Sharma said...

it is very unfortunate and a great loss , I had studied till high school 1992 with him in St Francis College different section.
Still remember that he was one of the brightest student popular in studies,sports or any other competition.

May you rest in peace bro.
Regards to Uncle,Aunty and Neal bhai.

Pranav Sharma

Please do let us know we can do in something in Lucknow in memory of our Anuj Mohan.

8:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dear Anuj,
I cannot forget your smiling face . it brings energy, positivity and love for life. you are an inspiration for everyone I remember school days when you were learning Hindi and did really well in all subjects. you came to our home quite often and vibhor Rastogi, my brother told about you, your family, to us. I am elder sister of vibhor - shalini Rastogi and today I share all our childhood memories with my two sons, who are loving to know more and more about you. may god bless your soul and you Rest In Peace...My family will always miss you...........bye from shalu didi,

1:10 PM  
Anonymous SAMEER SUDHIR KUMAR said...

Anuj and self joined SFC together in Class 4.
stayed together till Class 10 and then different classes in 11th and 12th. He was an amazing friend. He was the only goal keeper against whom i could not score a single goal....despite him alone in the post. I still remember his cycle which he use to carry on his shoulders in traffic.
His untimely demise was the worst news i could ever hear. Still am not in terms that he is not with us. Being bought up in the army environment and now being one time teaches to settle down with losses....BUT NOT THIS ONE.

3:59 AM  

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